“Hanging on tight takes a lot of energy. We act as if hanging on increases the likelihood of what we want coming to pass….maybe it’s that we confuse “letting go” with “giving up”…….letting go is loosening your tight-fisted grip on having things turn out one specific way giving possibility some air to breathe…” -Debrena Jackson Gandy
Many of the problems we have in our lives stems from not letting go of our past. We may hide it in things we hoard in our houses including ten closets of clothing, cars you own but don’t drive and friends or spouses who could hardly care less about you but you keep them around to hide your own issues. Meanwhile, you feel restless and up all night with anxiety even though your life should be well according to society’s standards.
A lot of my clients have had difficult upbringings where either their father was nowhere to be found or their mother was trying to deal with her own drama. You then grow up trying to become the adult to your parents while still trying to maintain a childhood. And although you managed to get out of the situation, the residual effects still remain and show up in your current state of relationships.
Now maybe that wasn’t your problem so let me bowl closer down your alley. Let’s say that you had a loving upbringing but you still manage to find yourself in difficult situations because you haven’t learned the proper way to set boundaries for yourself. You give too much love to people in intimate relationships who are not right for you. You end up feeling burned out because you’ve poured too much of your cup to people who are undeserving of receiving from it.
Still not your problem? What about letting go of poor financial habits? Do you spend money on all the wrong things? Do you have to have the latest tickets to the Beyoncé concert? Or what about your health? How often do you implement a practice of eating fresh fruits and vegetables to your daily diet? Or does it consist of coffee and doughnuts?
You see, we all need to let go of something or someone? Our focus is usually on letting go of bad relationships…and rightfully so! They are at the core of our lives as social beings. But there are other areas of our lives that may need a bit of “decluttering” as well. While we’re all out and about this summer, let’s all challenge ourselves to let go of bad habits in our lives holding us back from getting our dreams. The more we can let go of things that no longer serve us, the more we can let in the things that do.
Thanks for reading!